“I wish I had her body”

How many times have you heard someone saying this?

How many times has this crossed YOUR mind when scrolling through social media?

Have you ever counted calories so you could look like HER?

Or maybe skipped entire meals?

I know I have.

I went through years where I wished my body was different: thinner, longer, firmer, smoother… 

So, I gave my money to diet companies, and I gave my energy wishing to look like a stranger on the internet.

And I’m sure we’ve all wished to look like somebody else, at some point in life.

If you ever felt any of this (or haven’t) please stay with me today, as I tackle a topic we all have to embrace.

I want to show you that you can never look like that.
No matter what you do, no matter how hard you try, you can never have the body of a fitness influencer.

I know this is a tough one to process, but stay with me and hear me out.

We’re starting off right now!


Why You’ll Never Have The Body Of A Fitness Influencer

ANSWER: Because they don’t have that body either

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Let me start off by saying that nobody is perfect.
There is no such thing as perfection and we should stop acting like there is.

“But the fitness influencer I follow on Instagram looks perfect”.

Babe, stop.

Just stop.

Why do we look up to social media influencers and celebrities and admire their beauty and “perfection” so much?

Are they really that “perfect? Are they really that happy?’

We are so fast to put them on a pedestal and see them as flawless, constantly wishing we looked like that, and yet we don’t really know anyone in real life as perfect as that.

It took me years in the fitness industry to finally realize that things are not like they seem on the internet.

And it took me that much more to make it clear to my brain that I will never look like that, because fitness influencers don’t look like that either.

Say what now?


These people we look up to, and compare ourselves negatively to, are actually real people with their own “imperfections” and “flaws”.

They have cellulite, they have stretchmarks, they have rolls whenever they sit down, they bloat – which are all perfectly normal things, are nothing to be ashamed of, and are a part of being a normal human being.

In fact, most of the influencers are really insecure themselves, constantly chasing perfection and unrealistic beauty standards.

You may be wondering why we don’t see these things…

Well, I’m just about to dive into the whys.

The Art Of Posing

The one thing you should always remember is posing is a real thing, and it makes the biggest of a difference.

With the right techniques fitness influencers hide their “everyday normal bodies”.

And please know that posing is okay, and there’s nothing wrong in posing, and showing your “better” angles, I’m just trying to give you the real picture here.

Why You'll Never Have The Body Of A Fitness Influencer
It’s so easy to look at a picture and think “wow she looks amazing” and I get so many messages each day saying I’m starting to look so fit again. And yes I have lost weight and working hard, but that doesn’t mean my body looks like the left photo all the time! 🙋🏼‍♀️
I do pose for pictures sometimes, flex, find the right light, throw on a filter etc! And that’s okay! Just want to be transparent and show that I don’t look “fit” all the time.

A lot of what we see on Instagram are posed bodies in the “best” angles, that took time and effort capturing.

What (almost) nobody tells you is that these bodies look different when relaxed, or when they are in an other position or another angle.

Even though both versions are equally BEAUTIFUL, one is more real, and one is a “try had” – “holding breath” – “sucking up” kinda beautiful :)

We’re so used to hate our bodies with skin folds, cellulite, bloated belly, stretch marks and all of that, just because of social media.

This suggested level of “PERFECTION” is one that our moving, wiggling, bending and folding bodies can never really achieve.

The truth is, nobody looks like that all the time.

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Instagram is full of life highlights and pictures with the best poses, angles and lighting and that’s not fair. Of course I do this too but I also like to share the other side of it.🤗 So here’s me posing (what I do when I take an Instagram picture) VS me when I’m standing relaxt (not flexing my abs or turning my hips). It’s just a quick reminder for you babes to not compare yourself with the perfect pictures you see on IG.

Influencers are posing when they take those pictures, and again, I’m not saying this is good or bad.

I’m just saying you should have this in mind next time you wish you had the body of your favorite fitspo.

And if you think posing isn’t a real thing, and these photos above are photoshopped (which is also a thing, we’ll get to it in just a bit), just wait till you see this:


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Light Makes All The Difference

Same as posing and showing “good angles only”, proper lighting can do the exact same thing too.

Bodies look different in different kinds of lighting.

Why You'll Never Have The Body Of A Fitness Influencer

Especially when it comes to cellulite and stretchmarks.

Over 90% of all women have cellulite.
But none of the women I follow on social media have cellulite.

That’s because we hide it.

And lighting is one of the best ways to do it, here’s how.


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Photoshop Is A Bitch

It’s so crazy to me how easy it is to photoshop pictures these days.

When I was growing up, photoshop was used by celebrities, however nowadays photoshopping your photos is just a click away.

It really frustrates me that it’s so easy and that so many women nowadays do it.

instagram fitness influencer

Young girls and women get such a messed up image of the female body and see those pictures as an example of “how their body should look”.

Others edit their pictures just to “fit in” and look like those Instagram models.

All of that just to fulfil some beauty standards.

I see even women who look absolutely stunning, photoshopping pictures just to look even more “perfect” and unrealistically thin.

And what’s even more absurd is that nowadays there are apps that help you transform your videos too.

Check this out…


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Is this normal?

Is this what we want?

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Photoshopping apps are getting smarter, but so are we.

It’s time to put a stop on this.

2d Is A Liar

And lastly, 2d is a complete liar.

You are always getting one side of the story when scrolling through Instagram.

Please babe, always remember this!

You can never know the whole story from just looking at 1 single picture or video on a flat screen.

Online isn’t real.

Nobody’s perfect, and nobody should be perfect.

We are not made to be perfect at all.

We are unique and beautiful in our own ways and that’s the beauty of it.

Let’s stop chasing perfection, because even the most “perfect” bodies, don’t look like that either.

Let’s Fall In Love With Ourselves


Girl, you are already amazing, why waste your energy wanting to look like someone else?!

Please stop!

I hope you know how incredibly unique you are.

Let’s fight society’s beauty standards together, and focus on being ourselves more.

We are beautiful, flaws and all, and we should never ever, not even for a second, let society convince us otherwise.

Nobody’s perfect and that’s the beauty of it.

Give your mind, body and heart a little bit of love today.

Treat your BODY with KINDNESS and know that YOU are AMAZING.
You are.
You absolutely are.

Don’t forget to share this article with your besties and make sure they are on board with this.

I hope this helps!

I am so happy you are here today.

Till next time, babe!